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Working Mums have a voice too…
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The radio goes on in the morning when I get up which is anything between 6am and 7.30am. That’s after I go into Miniminx’s room, give her a kiss, tuck her in and tell her she can have a few more zzzzzs before getting up. She always gives me a lovely smile. It’s worth getting up for.

Then the well-honed chaos begins in near robotic fashion. I boil the kettle, make tea, pour hotwater in a flask to heat it up, then put pasta on (timed for 10 minutes) and warm milk for a hot chocolate, or make a milk-shake with a banana and cocoa. Then, I slice up cucumber, chop carrots, measure out olives, find a cold drink, and pack Miniminx’s lunch box and then put something on the table for breakfast.

Yes, it’s manic.

Then I rush upstairs, get Miniminx up, she dresses, has her breakfast. The timer goes, we chat, I put butter and parmesan on the pasta and hey presto, it goes into the flask piping hot, she’s got a homecooked lunch that’s still warm when she gets to eat it at school.

I shower, get dressed and whirl like a dervish.

Time goes into warp speed. We panic, fluster, bicker, snigger, laugh, choke – finish homework, pack up everything.

We cycle to school.

I cycle home then panic, fluster, bicker with myself, snigger at my sense of chaos, laugh silently at the disorder then go to work. On a good day, the sun is shining, the journey through London is beautiful, I wonder at the city. On a bad day, I curse under my breath, get to work looking and feeling like a lunatic. Thanks heavens for double shot lattes.

This morning felt like an episode from Dr Who. On Radio 4 the 8 o’clock news came on.

Was there a dalek reading it this morning…?

WORKING MOTHERS YOU ARE ALL RUINING THE WORLD
YOUR CHILDREN ARE FAT
YOU FEED THEM SWEETS SO THEY WILL MAKE FOIE GRAS
YOU CHAIN THEM TO THE TELLY
YOU ARE, ARE, ARE…RESPONSIBLE FOR OBESITY AND ALL THE PROBLEMS OF THE WORLD
WORKING MUMS MUST BE DESTROYED

My daughter and I looked at each other. We were both being torn down. Each ‘fact’ aimed squarely between the eyes – perhaps it’s time to switch the radio off and stick CBBC back on for a gentler entree into the day?

With news so readily available in the workplace, it’s difficult to avoid the story all day. I’m so glad to see this evening that the social networks are awash with irate Mothers who are not going to be slapped down by this ridiculous research.

From today’s Guardian
‘According to the study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, the unadjusted results showed that children whose mothers worked part-time or full-time were more likely to eat fruit or vegetables between meals (compared to other snacks), eat more portions of fruit per day, participte (sic) in organised exercise or be driven to school than those where the mother did not work.’

So how is this bad?

The BBC report

‘Children whose mothers work are less likely to lead healthy lives than those with “stay at home” mums, a study says.

Professor Catherine Law, from the Institute of Child Health at University College London, has done the research. She said the findings cut across social status.

“We were able to take into account other factors which might influence diet and physical activity, such as whether a family had a very well educated mother and father or whether they hadn’t had the benefit of such education”, she said.

“But these findings were independent of that and in particular it didn’t seem to be dependent on income, so going out to work might lead to better opportunities because of increased income, but that didn’t seem to be the case in this study.”

Oh and the fantastic headlines from The Times…

Working Mums have the unhealthiest children, research finds…

I’d like to laugh this one off and say that working Mums with kids under five are too knackered at the end of the day to remember their names let alone answer a survey correctly but I can’t.

This is the first time I’ve not suffered in silence and blogged about my dismay.
I’m not alone, the media is painting itself into a corner with this aggressive negativity that permeates it, especially around Motherhood – yes, please do make a point but don’t damn us – we have a voice and today, it’s being heard.

Give me a Mummy blog anyday thank you.

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  3. Potty Mummy says:

    God, how ridiculous is all that? Does the media really have nothing better to do than to point the finger at working mums today and stay at homes tomorrow? Can they not just focus on the fact that feeding your children rubbish is not a good idea, and encouraging exercise is? We all know that there are both working AND stay at home mums that do right by their kids, and that there are working AND stay at home mums that don’t.
    .-= Potty Mummy´s last blog ..Stymied… =-.

    • admin says:

      Well said. I’m so glad to see such strong swathes of response among the blogging and twitter community about this report.

  4. Happy Mum says:

    Nice one! I still can’t over how ridiculous it is to hear that! great post!

  5. This report made me angry – what was the point in the research being carried out? I don’t see what its conclusions have achieved other than being another stick for the media to beat mothers with. I agree with Potty Mummy, there are good and bad mothers but that’s nothing to do with whether they work or not.
    .-= whistlejacket´s last blog ..How do you feel about your age? =-.

    • admin says:

      It really has had an effect on us all, who knows why the research was carried out. I’d like to see the raw data myself because it has been put through several wringers as I know how research companies can mangle and manipulate data. Glad we all seem to be in agreement tho x

  6. Linda says:

    Great post – I also chop bloody carrots and cucumber and pepper and make the healthiest lunches I have ever seen for my girls as I am overweight and determined to “break the chain” where they are concerned. There will be another survey along before you know it – having a go at stay at home mums for something contradictory. Nobody has ever “surveyed” me – the “best” surveys are those Ben Goldacre reports in his book where a PR team asks their mates!
    .-= Linda´s last blog ..Working mum? Stay at home mum? Part timer? We’re all just doing the best we can =-.

    • admin says:

      I’ve worked with survey companies for many years and it’s hard to get something valuable. The best ones are never released to the media. I’m still keen to do some digging around on the background of the topic though. I’m just chuffed to bits to see all the responses out there – never seen anything like it before, it’s a benchmark x

  7. Hmmm, I missed all this in the media earlier today – because I was WORKING! But I was working for the first time in 2 months, I used to work full-time, now it’s casual part-time. SO how do I decipher from this research what effect my employment will have on my daughter? I choose to decipher that it’s really not very useful information. As many have pointed out, those of us who try to feed their kids a healthy, balanced diet will do so whether we work or not. P.s researchers, Mums are not the only parents…
    .-= Kath@Parklover´s last blog ..Longford Park, Stretford =-.

  8. Geez, you’d think the media could focus on something constructive…
    .-= A Modern Mother´s last blog ..My name is Susanna (not Suzanne, not Susie and certainly not Sue!) =-.

  9. Natalie says:

    I’m getting the impression from the media that if you’re a mum, no matter what you do, you’re screwing up your kids… We’re all damned it seems…
    .-= Natalie´s last blog ..Bayard Books =-.

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